Few people likely understand what I mean by “Live-It-Forward” model*. Here I clarify my differences versus that of the famed Pay It Forward Model.
*Note that this is largely a hypothesis in the making, thus revisions & re-clarifications are inevitable.
What is “Live-It-Forward” model?
It is a reciprocal model of gratifying life experiences as “Progress” (“Live-It”). Rather than forwarding of “Outcomes” (“Pay-It”). At a glance, there is nothing wrong with this famed Pay-It-Forward model. Assuming you have (out of surplus) – instrumental charity for assisting, or inspiring those of lesser’s circumstance.
But what is exactly needed before such an “Outcome”? Simple, it’s Progress. And any “progress” – is determined by Ability. Biology. Physiology. Drive. Authenticity. In other words, “Live-It-Forward” model can be thought of as the needed-precursor. Before instrumental charity (“Pay-It-Forward”) event becomes possible.
The “Gratuity” component is the respect of subjectively individual realisation of experiences. Through authentic written comments, rather than merely the arithmetic distribution of “Outcomes”. Manifested through “Likes”, “number of followers”, “number of page visits”, “analytics”, etc.
“You”, as the prospective reader & visitor of my Book and branding initiative are authentically responsible for developing your own potentials of self-gratitude, first and foremost.
Before you can then spend it elsewhere – as an extension of that gratitude.
Why “Live-It-Forward” is more authentic?
It is an emphasis on the “experiencing” of progress, rather than simply the “passing” of outcomes.
“Live-It-Forward” model relies not by arithmetic distributions of gratitude. Instead, it’s determined through the individual’s own biological and nutritional authenticities. Capably determining whether they can “Live-Through” any one of the solicited advice/s, or principle/s offered on the table.
“Live-It-Forward” model further encourages more genuine, evident accountability of gratitudes; through sincere writing. Rather than arithmetic binary give-away dismissals such as “Likes” or “Dislikes”.
So, here are three “aspects” compartmentalising this Model. In the context of sharing gratitudes amidst our (troubled and misused) Social Media.
“Likes” and/or “Subscriptions” are welcome. But frivolous, at best.
Handing out “likes” is as lazy as saying “I’m flattering you enough as is! Can’t you see? But I don’t wish to contribute further to your benevolence ecosystem!”. Yes, giving away “Likes” are readily convenient and nobody has any “time” stringing together meaningful comments. Yet they can readily string it all in their head.
However, one must question whether seeing a number or an arithmetic change alone – truly makes that world of a positivity. What if those numbers are subject to deception or manipulation? For all we know, we might be interacting with a bot.
So, do numbers, as in mathematical symbols of “numbers” alone – automatically makes one warranted to receive respect? Materially speaking, yes but such is only that. An exchange of an object material (arithmetics, in this case). But biologically? meaningless, at best.
It is safe to say that I rarely subscribe or follow famous people’s advices. I myself (with few) do not always agree with Jordan Peterson’s stances on few things. His thoughts on “Respect” (3:05 onwards) however, is an exception. We do not (and cannot) simply give away Respect. We must instead earn it. “To earn” – requires one to foresee some sort of biological events or moments. Be it receiving a smile, a hug, or a pat on the back. This leads us to the second rationale below.
Biological Experience + Instrumental Rewards = True Gratitude.
I am validated biologically; be it through body language, gestures, handshakes, hugs, pats on the back. For what I have done as servitude has indeed been organically interpreted as “enough“.
…Before then I am rewarded instrumentally. Be it through monetary wages, income, tangible materials & resources needed for that one day I may be able to reciprocate this experience onto others.
The problem with simply giving away “Likes” is that such gratuity model is almost empty. A shell without soul. Incomplete, unwarranted gratitude. “What” do people thank you “for”? They do not thank you for nothing.
Again, compare seeing a “like” counter as opposed to genuinely written form of thanks. That is -a short account which need not be lengthy. Which one do you feel convinced?
Debates are conducive. Only when they come out “even”.
The problem with our current Social Media is we are forcibly bound to make one of two (2) extreme binary choices. Like or Dislike. Which inevitably brews to realm of Debating. Should we allow freedom of expression? Of course we should.
But we need to re-evaluate the lines between what is Cooperative and what is Destructive / Coercive – debates.
I consider “Debates” cooperative only as an outcome that both sides peacefully agreed each other’s equal intensity of correctness. In spite of differing experiences. After all “Cooperative” means that we are inevitably “Even”. One might “wins” each other out from one different context, one interpretation, at a time. But remains subject to “lose” against another’s list of and vice versa. Repeat this exchange of arguments long enough, then voila we’re back to square one – you keep “you”, I keep “mine”. No problems then, “We’re even.”
However if mistaken as an insecurity or of desire to provoke Quantified superiority – this is untrustworthy. Or at best – destructive and coercive.
Everything is context-dependant. Believe anything in excess, but do not overstay your welcome.
TLDR; Don’t just “Pay-it” forward.
But “Live-It-Through”. All the way. Hence, “Live-It-Forward”.
Opinions and judgments after all, are free. Experiences and circumstances on the other hand? Priceless.
This Project aims to differ from its nutritional or fitness motivation peers. By its’ daringly broad discussions beyond the subject of “food” alone. Beyond accounts of frugal resilience. Whey cheesecake recipes. And surprising findings of Omega-6 PUFAs in Ketogenic intervention.
All in the effort of one (1) individual. If sadly remains lost amidst “health & fitness” survivorship iconographies.
At least, seeing a comment or two would be nice considering thousands of hours work done all in the background.
Much better than seeing a “Like” received. That, I believe – is something we can all agree on. Peacefully.
Are there any other models of gratuity that you can think of that are seemingly applicable? I’d love to hear your thoughts below.